GENDER IMPARITY

TODAY'S PRIME ISSUE. WILL IT ALSO BE TOMORROW’S ?

I was recently flipping through the pages of my 10^th grade yearbook when I came across the poems written by my then fellow classmates on the topic '20 years hence’.

I recollected how excited we all were to share our dreams and aspirations for what the Future held in its cocoon for all of us.

However, my feeling of elation and nostalgia dissipated rather quickly and was replaced with something akin to sadness when I ran my eyes over the sentences of my friend’s poem.

I continued reading till I reached the end and that was when I let out a sigh, staring straight at the rather pale wall ahead.

                A lot of my male friends had expressed their desire of having a beautiful wife who will take care of them and their home.

One boy who as I recollected was rather thin during our school days, wished to praise his future wife for increasing his weight by taking care of him wholeheartedly in the way we do for a toddler.

                On the other hand, myriad of my female friends had written about the success they aspired in life both professionally and personally .They dreamt and aspired to be firm on their own feet and did not want a man ‘to take care of them and fulfill their materialistic desires’.

The female half just wanted a secure and easy going man.

The apparent difference in the thought processes of the two genders regarding their take on each other is rather huge.

                   Not one, not even one of the boys had expressed their desire of having an ambitious wife, a career–driven better half who will be striving   for excellence in professional as well as personal life just like all the boys are wanting for themselves.

Not consciously but many men want a beautiful, presentable wife. A stunning accolade to be with them for the show

Many men, even in the 21^st Century want their better half to take care of them, cook for them, increase their weight and pay them full attention as if they are little toddlers who don’t even know how to hold their spoons right.

The girls wanted a better half, a guy who is successful in his profession and loving at home, just the way they wish for themselves.

                         Such a vast expanse there is in the definition of better half between different people. But interestingly if you ponder a bit about this, it will occur to you that the definition varies vastly not between different people but rather specifically between different genders.

I know some may be thinking that I am overreacting, but truth to be told this is not an exaggeration. If 15-year-olds have this image of a wife, a better half in their mind then this mindset is not going to change in the later years and will become a solidified, Unjust base with which they and their partner will suffer with for the rest of their lives.

                     Now, Let us imagine a world where men and women both have equal opportunities at whatever they do.

                       Where a man is not pressurized to meet the financial demands of the whole household on his own as his better half will be an equal in all aspects of life with him.

                        Idealize a situation where successful and working women are not judged and considered as not being good enough mothers and wives.

                        Where working women are not pressurized to leave their jobs because of the need to take care of their domestic crib

                        Where a man and women share all household chores equally and are able to maintain a great standard of living because of both of their efforts and not just one’s.

                        A world where a woman’s salary can be more than her husband’s and they still can be happy as they both will be doing what they love passionately and not considering that He is more important than Her in this special bond.

Wishful and panglossian thinking some may say so but I don’t think that. I believe that we, the people of this world, have the power to achieve the aforementioned glorious scenarios.

 I believe that it is Not Wrong for Females to expect that their partner would want them to be successful both professionally and personally just the way the ladies wish for themselves and their husband’s.

 A lady always take joy in her husband’s ambition and success then why are men not ready to express joy in their wife’s achievement, success, and ambition?

                          Our agathokakological Society likes to believe that things have changed and there are hardly any issues left related to women empowerment and gender imparity. But let us all genuinely ask ourselves the same question as individuals: Is Gender Imparity an issue of past or still a prevailing one?

We all know the truth and so do I as I opened my eyes and stared straight at the rather pale wall ahead and said out loud:

 ‘This is Not an issue of past but rather a Present one that Demands Serious Change.’

WRITTEN BY 

NIDHI KAMALAPURKAR

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